National Clearinghouse on Homeless Youth and Families

Tough Talk: What Boys Need to Know About Relationship Abuse

Liz Claiborne Inc.,
Family Violence Prevention Fund
Year Published: 2004
Liz Claiborne Inc.
Liz Claiborne Inc.

Violence in relationships can be a difficult topic for anyone to talk about, especially men, say these authors. Because it has traditionally been considered a "women's issue," many men feel as if they have no positive, proactive way to help stop it. But men play a crucial role in guiding the boys in their lives into manhood and into positive relationships as they grow older - teaching them about respect, showing them how to deal with conflict, and setting examples of how to build healthy relationships So, if you're a father, coach, teacher, uncle, older brother or mentor, you should talk "man to man" about relationship abuse with the boys in your life. In this booklet, the authors provide a set of questions, intended as guidelines, that you can use to start the conversation. They also offer advice on what to do if you learn he is abusive in his own relationship, if he discloses that he is being abused, or if he doesn't want to talk to you at all. A list of organizations that can help is included.

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